One of the key goals of The Pickle Challenge is to make people more aware of, and less tolerant of, toxic emotional negativity in themselves and in others.
In his books that have popularized the concept of emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman outlines four key dimensions of EI: self-awareness, social awareness, self-management, and inspirational leadership.
As shown in the matrix above, whining and complaining undermine emotional intelligence in all four domains.
Anytime someone complains, what they’re really saying is that they’re not getting something they feel entitled to, that it’s someone else’s fault, and that there’s nothing they can do about it being victimized by this loss or inconvenience.
Someone feels entitled to more money but the boss didn’t give them a pay raise or a promotion so they complain about how they are being victimized by an unfair and uncaring employer.
Someone feels entitled to not having to stand in line but TSA or McDonald’s or the toll booth Highway 1 is backed up so they complain about all the inconsiderate strangers who are in line ahead of them and the inefficient employees who are making them wait.
Any time you complain about anything – anything at all – you are in an insidious way contributing to a self-image of you as a victim.
When complaining is the dominant form of conversation in the break room where you work, that “poor me I’m a victim” mindset will become pervasive and erode any spirit of initiative and self-empowerment.
That’s why taking The Pickle Pledge (pictured below) to heart is one of the most personally empowering things you can do to increase your own emotional intelligence and to stop subconsciously acting like a victim.
And that’s why encouraging your organization to enlist in The Pickle Challenge for Charity is one of the easiest and most effective actions your leadership team can take to enhance emotional intelligence in the workplace.
To learn more about The Pickle Challenge please download the Program Description at the Pickle Pledge website. I hope that your organization will join us for Pickle Challenge 2019. Our goal is to enlist 100 organizations and raise one-million dollars for the charities selected by those organizations by turning 4 million complaints into gratitude and initiative – and 25-cent charitable donations.
With a critical mass of 100 organizations making the commitment, we stand a very good chance of sparking a movement to replace whining and complaining with gratitude and initiative everywhere. Can you think of anything more important for our world today?